Me and my kiddo

Me and my kiddo

Saturday, July 21, 2018

The Parenting Power of…. the Plunger!

Long ago, I was about the same age my son is now: a wise fourteen. One would think I had some intelligence. I got excellent grades in honors / Advanced-Placement (AP) classes and did all the well-rounded things too like participate in clubs and do community service. Yet, somehow I took up the plunger one evening and my brain went on vacation. The shower water was on to warm-up and I had a towel round me while waiting and… I picked up the plunger. Somehow, I thought it would be fun / wise / sane to plunge the bathroom mirror. The entire 6 foot by 4 foot thing came off the wall at my head and I screamed as I dropped the plunger and threw up my hands. My father came bursting in to my rescue, helped guide the precarious mirror to the counter, noted the lack of blood / damage, and kindly didn’t mention the lack of towel. (It took me several years to admit that the little mirror clamps hadn’t just broken because I was experiencing an overwhelming combination of fear, shock, and abject embarrassment!)

So… what does this have to do with parenting. There are times when I can’t imagine the depths of insanity that must be present for my child to have taken a certain action and then… I remember the plunger. I simply cannot explain where my usually sensible-self went for those thirty seconds and if I could have been that loopy, perhaps I can be a wee bit understanding of my child. It doesn’t change that there are consequences for actions and I can definitely still lose my cool. But, the parenting-power of the plunger is that I can have some compassion for the most egregious actions. After all, if I could plunge the bathroom mirror at fourteen, my child might actually just need some more kindness and support and time. When I start to think he’s just completely crazy, I can summon the parenting power of… the plunger!

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Snap Shot of Awesome

Eighteen years ago today, I married the love of my life (after three years of being engaged).

We just got home from an incredible dinner at Flemings. We experienced a perfect meal complete with our first tomahawk steak and the kind of conversation we've perfected over the last couple decades. We chatted about what we did well and what what we messed-up over the past year and what we wanted for the future.

It was delightful. I'm still full and happy and all tingles :) I'm also quite content with my summer job at Lindamood-Bell where I'm appreciated and making a difference.

Last week, Andrew took an ambulance trip to the ER where he spent eight hours with mysterious chest pain.

Aside from that freaky incident which is mostly resolved, he's been blissfully happy both in Colorado and at Boom.

Cameron has been at camp in California for the last week and is coming home tomorrow. He traveled alone. He starts his freshman year of simultaneous high school and college in six weeks (at fourteen years old).

Overall, life is pretty awesome.

Friday, May 25, 2018

Finished Lindamood-Bell Orientation And...

... it was lots of fun! I earned my star pin today and a thumbs up to start teaching. These two weeks have been challenging to absorb all the new information and help Cameron through his last two weeks of 8th grade at the same time. 

One especially fun thing was to watch these robins feeding their young ones throughout the day (just outside our classroom windows)!

Lots of rabbits visited too!

Before I left this morning for the last day of orientation, the sun was lovely on the porch.

Overall, I feel ready! There will still be lots of refining to do, but I think working here is going to be fun and after this three day weekend... I won't be homeschooling at the same time!

Friday, May 4, 2018

Sea Ranch Loveliness

I'm just back from Sea Ranch and still feeling the soul-nurturing wonder of this place. I've written about it before as the "best memory of my life". 

The place is called Sea Ranch.  It's on the Northern California coast and it is here where my love for the ocean began.  I still find standing on a cliff by the ocean deeply self-nurturing.  It's such a complete sensory experience and so joyful to me that I feel like I literally soak it in.  I love the sounds of giant waves pounding the rocks while the sea gulls give their eery calls above.  I love the feel of the cool spray, the trembling earth, the wind, the sun.  I love the sights of the deep, deep blue Pacific, the bent cypress trees, the colorful tide pools, and the sunsets that streak the waters with rippling gold.  I love the salty smells and the wood smoke and the musty pine when traveling through a thicket.  I can put myself so completely in this place that I yearn for it when I've been away for a long time. There is nothing like this kind of ocean setting to sooth my soul; it gives me such inner happiness just to experience this particular aspect of nature. 

These are just some of the pictures of this recent trip. It's a truly glorious spot for soul-smiles.

Friday, April 6, 2018

Settling In: Take Two

We've made it to four months in our new home and we're almost at that utopian moment of peace and quiet. There will always be projects, but the wood floors and tile are done. No more jack-hammering. No more fumes. No more hoopla-induced migraines. We're both soooo ready! This weekend we'll put back the belongings that were stuffed around the house during the repairs. It's going to be heavenly.

We've now shared a lovely Valentine's Day in our new home...

... and the first amaryllis bulb bloomed beneath the skylights.

The deer have continued to peer in and pass by...

... and the dog is now used to it.

Cameron has continued to work on 8th grade through his online charter school and...

... still loves petting the dog during Spanish vocab work, but...

... things have changed a bit!
Andrew is blissfully happy at work

I've done my first dress rehearsal with the chorus (gulp, full make-up) and next weekend I'll head to Phoenix for the regional convention.

Cameron has taken to tell-an-alternating-story-as-you-go walks... and tends to get a bit goofy during the process :)

It's been a long process of working toward that peace with the house...

... and we still have lots to put back...

... but we're almost there and the peace inside and out is going to be deeply nurturing.

Peace and quiet and feeling fully settled are all quite close.