BUT, when he is completely comfortable in a situation, he is highly flexible and responsive. This has me thinking about some of the ways I can help him as the school year starts. There will be new, uncomfortable social situations for him. I'm thinking that I'll pull out social stories (one of my first posts) from my tool box and start talking about all those constructive choices he can make (verbal requests for time, physically moving himself away, etc.). I've seen that worried look on his face, but I hadn't identified anxiety as a potentially key issue confounding his learning.
This is an article on anxiety and Autism that I was reading recently. In this case, the issue is the teacher / parent's response. I think one of the most powerful ideas is to slow down. Whenever the concern starts to mount, giving time to cope can make all the difference in preventing a break down. My kiddo is still so emotionally young, but he is progressing with every skill and experience. I'm curious if anyone else has experience with anxiety in kids and what techniques have worked for you.
(If he's doing well building a lego masterpiece, he's glad to change position for vacuuming or have whatever is "handy" for lunch. If he's not feeling successful, the flexibility goes out the door and everything is a tragedy. This topic definitely deserves more Mommy thinking :) .)